A close friend recently ended a relationship with the man she loves because he really isn’t available to her. Their connection was compromised from the beginning but over the two years they were “together” she developed a strong emotional connection to him. Basically, she just chose to appreciate what was working and ignore the rest. Well, not any more. She finally decided to stop the madness and walk away and I think she is brave. She didn’t walk into another relationship. She walked into nothing and nothing isn’t easy. She’s alone and she is missing what she had. Most of us are too chicken to do that. Most of us would rather have something that works OK than take a chance on the unknown. She told me she is worried that no one will ever really love her because she’s 46 and has made some mistakes. She may have even used the word “baggage”.
Please don’t ever think that way!!!! A great friend recently told me that “flawed” people are the best because they have humility and compassion and perspective. It’s never about where you’ve been. Life is always about what you have learned and where you are headed. So have some courage and get excited about the possibilities.