Communicating is the hardest thing we do. It’s easy to understand the world from our individual perspective; it’s hard to understand it from someone else’s. We’re supposed to listen with an open mind, trying to understand their point of view, but we have our egos to protect and we’re opinionated. There’s nothing easy about it.
When we care about the people in our life and they disagree with us, we try to help them understand why their thinking is wrong because, of course, our thinking is right. We talk, we argue, we even yell. We compromise, we agree to disagree, and we work it out because it matters to us, because the people we love matter to us.
However, there’s a weapon in our communication arsenal called “silence”. It’s the choice to walk away from the conversation. It’s like saying, “I don’t care. It’s not that important to me.” However, over time it says, “I don’t care about you. You don’t matter to me. My priorities are somewhere else. Go away.”
Be careful how you use the silence weapon around the people you love. You could create a divide that’s too deep to fill.
They might go away.