It’s hard for me to be objective with myself. I try but it’s often a matter of convenience. I’m quick to tell people to “do the right thing, just because it’s the right thing to do” but when it comes to the way I live my life, the concept can be fleeting.
The big things are easy: Don’t lie, steal, cheat, hurt others, etc… Our values dictate our behavior when it comes to big choices. But the little things can get away from us: Active listening, focused kid time, time management, healthy food choices, etc…
When it’s inconvenient, I make excuses. I tell myself it’s ok “this time.” I think that way because I’m living under the assumption that when it comes to the little things my choices aren’t as important.
Maybe I should change the assumption. Those little choices add up and turn into habits. If I’m not focused, the workout I skipped could turn into a month of workouts; the kid-time I skipped could turn into a broken relationship; and the chips I enjoyed could turn into 10 pounds.
Becoming the best possible version of ourselves isn’t convenient. It takes focused effort. It’s hard. Tom Hanks once said, “It’s supposed to be hard; if it wasn’t hard everyone would do it. Hard is what makes it great.”
I believe that working hard at the little things in your life is also the source of confidence, self-esteem, and happiness. What do you think?