February Challenge: Why all the fruits and vegetables?

The fruits and veggies rule is part of the February Challenge every year.  I wish this choice wasn’t a challenge.  I wish we were already eating lots of produce.  It’s the stuff that keeps us healthy. Unfortunately, most of us didn’t grow up with vegetables taking up 50% of the space on the dinner plate.…

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February Challenge 2013 rules

The February Challenge started 15 years ago because a group of friends wanted to help each other shed the pounds they gained over the holidays.  They chose February because: the holiday parties were finally over; it gave them something to focus on in the dead of winter; they wanted to jump into spring already in…

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Are you a victim?

There’s a difference between being victimized and being a victim.  You’re victimized when something bad happens to you.  You’re a victim when you let your past define your future. When I was 15, I was victimized by a rape.  I didn’t talk about it at the time.  Instead, I handled it alone.  At some point…

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To Resolve or not to Resolve

People hate New Year’s Resolutions because they don’t keep them.  The 10 lbs Dick was going to lose last year are still hanging around.  Jane’s new exercise plan got pushed aside because of other priorities.  The clutter Sally wanted to control somehow managed to take over her house again.  So what’s the point of making…

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Commit…Go all in

I was reading my friend Joy Jordan’s blog about the layers of emotion connected to change. She says, “Emotions we attach to the unknown, like difficulty, doubt, dis-ease, trust, transition, vulnerability, risk–are not easy to process; not easy to sit with. Yet this is most of life. The world constantly changes. Real life interrupts our plans.  Surprises…

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What high school boys say about high school girls

I used to think high school boys didn’t talk much about their conquests.  I also didn’t think they cared about the amount of sexual experience a girl accumulated.  It makes sense that boys who want experience look for girls willing to play the game.  I’m sure they’re grateful when they succeed, too.  However, I never realized how disrespectful they can…

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Choices vs goals vs sacrifices

A friend of mine posted a blog which lays out her “important life choices”, i.e., the decisions she consciously makes in order to live a life that’s congruent with her values. To some people, her choices might look like a list of goals…something to strive toward. To others, some of her choices might look more…

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Chasing Change: Make it a habit.

I’m lucky because I teach Pilates at Lawrence University so I get to interact with students on a regular basis. College is an amazing time in life. At LU, students are constantly exposed to new and exciting ideas not because of what they learn in the classroom, but because of the diverse people they meet…

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Empowerment: I want you to own your life

Why do you do what you do? Or as my thirteen year old likes to say, “Why are you why you are?” Then he adds, “They’re just letters, Mom.” (YRUYUR). I’m a professional speaker and author, not because I’m a rape survivor and not because I’m an Ironman. I’m a speaker and author because I…

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