Are you centered?

I think we need to be centered to be effective in life.  However, it’s easy to confuse ‘centered’ with ‘selfish’.  They are not the same thing.  ‘Selfish’ means to be concerned only with yourself, at the exclusion of others.  ‘Centered’ is different.  When you are in an airplane listening to the flight attendant explain the…

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Great Leadership

The more time I spend with the leaders of various companies, the more I recognize some common traits among the best.  Great leaders, it turns out, have three things in common.  They treat everyone with respect.  They are driven to do their best.  And they do the right thing just because it’s the right thing…

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Teaching an old dog new tricks

A year ago I was driving 8 hours to a basketball tournament with my son and some of his teammates.  I suffered through their choice of music for many hours over those four days, only complaining if the language of a particular song  was unusually inappropriate.   I survived. Yesterday, I picked up my mother for lunch and just…

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Alone

By definition, ALONE means “to be isolated, without others or anything else.”  That’s not what I’m referring to.  You’d have to live on an island to be that alone.  We have friends and family.  We have careers and hobbies.  But what about a great connection with someone you love?  What about someone you want to walk through…

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Courage

A close friend recently ended a relationship with the man she loves because he really isn’t available to her.  Their connection was compromised from the beginning but over the two years they were “together” she developed a strong emotional connection to him.  Basically, she just chose to appreciate what was working and ignore the rest.  Well, not any more.  She finally decided to…

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A little nature

I woke up early yesterday to the sound of rain, threw on my running shoes and headed out to High Cliff State Park.  I knew the rain would keep people away but I also knew the canopy of the trees would keep me dry.  I have done this run many times.  I love the sounds created…

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Is temptation a gift?

I have a personal training client that I see three times a week.  He is about 100 lbs over weight and struggles with some compulsive eating behaviors.  He is also a man of God and told me this morning that from his point of view, temptation is the devil at work.  So I suggested to…

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Why bother with a note?

I have to confess that I have NEVER been good at sending snail mail.  I often neglect to send birthday cards and sympathy cards…let alone thank you cards.  And these days it’s even easier to be lazy…we can just send an e-mail.  That doesn’t mean I’m not grateful.  I just haven’t made writing notes a…

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Try and Try Again…

I have another new look for my website…third change in the last year.  Goes to the saying, “If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.”  That saying seems to be a recurring theme in my life 🙂  This time the goal was to upgrade my site to better represent my speaking career.  I…

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kid assembly project

My boys, ages 13 & 11, have been driving each other crazy lately.  They can be mean.  So I decided to try something new with them.  I bought some deck furniture that came in “Ikea-like” pieces.  I said, “Ok, you guys, let’s play a game.  I have two chairs that need assembling and the challenge…

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