Look around you…adversity is everywhere. Whether it’s an accident, an act of nature, an illness or some unevolved moron, adversity will cross your path. It’s not fair but who ever said life’s supposed to be fair?
Seriously, I’m amazed by the number of people who hang on to an expectation that life should be fair. Come on people, it’s not even fair in fairy-tales. Take Cinderella for example. Her mother died, her father married a terrible woman and then he dies. She’s basically turned into a slave for her entire childhood and she’s continually bullied by her step-mother and both of her step-sisters. It’s grim. But this fairy-tale teaches us an important lesson: You will overcome the challenges that cross your path if you persevere.
Cinderella is victimized by her circumstance, however, she never becomes a victim. Instead, she hangs onto a dream. In spite of the way she’s treated, she sings and demonstrates kindness to those around her. Eventually goodness wins the day and she meets her handsome prince. The same lesson is taught in Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, and pretty much every Disney movie ever made.
Still, we grow up expecting life to be fair. We understand that OTHER people face hardship yet somehow it’s not supposed to cross our path. Maybe when watching those fairy-tales we paid too much attention to the happy endings, you know, “and they lived happily-ever-after.”
Well, happily-ever-after isn’t an entitlement. It’s earned. If you want it, you have to believe you’re worth it and go out there and fight for it. So stop expecting life to be fair. Instead, expect to handle the unfairness.
And never, ever, ever give up on finding ways to create your own happy ending.